OLYMPIA -- It's been less than
four months since Sept. 11, the day that changed everything.
In many ways, that day already feels like a page from a history
book. Indelible images flashed across our television screens, pictures
burned into America's collective consciousness: jetliners diving
into skyscrapers, those same skyscrapers crumpling into dust and
debris, a smoking hole blown into the side of the Pentagon.
And then there was the reaction, just as powerful. A citizenry
united, balanced by a humbled view of America's security and its
place in the world. Before long, the United States was at war half
a world away, one that rages still.
Distance diminishes
For all the history that's been made in those four months, it's
easy to forget just how fresh the wounds of Sept. 11 are. Like many
Americans, most South Sound residents experienced the events of
Sept. 11 and their aftermath mostly through the media. But being
physically separated by the geography of an entire continent spared
South Sound little of the grief still being experienced by millions.
"People need to know they're not alone with their fears, and they
need to find a way to share them," said Brian Scheffer, a psychiatric
social worker in Olympia. "We've all been feeling a lot of those
feelings."
Vern Flesner has seen firsthand the grief of Sept. 11.
Flesner, the chaplain at Providence St. Peter Hospital, spent two
weeks of October in New York as part of a volunteer group of chaplains
called to the scene by the Red Cross and the Federal Emergency Management
Agency.
The group helped staff a clearinghouse at New Jersey's Liberty
Island, across the Hudson River from Manhattan, that was set up
for the families of the World Trade Center disaster. In addition
to providing legal, financial and mental health advice to the families,
the makeshift command center offered spiritual care.
One of Flesner's jobs was to accompany large groups of family members
as they visited ground zero. The groups would travel by boat across
the river into Manhattan, then make their way to the site.
There, the family members were able to mount a platform and look
out across the 16 acres of destruction that remained of the World
Trade Center.
Flesner and his fellow chaplains stood a few feet back. Usually,
a prayer was offered.
"The grief was heavy," Flesner recalls. "We couldn't do much but
to be there. It was a ministry of presence."
Flesner listened to many stories, heard the anguish both of those
who lost loved ones and those who were spared. He talked to the
family of a man who died on his first day of work at the twin towers.
He counseled another man, a survivor who wasn't in the building
that morning because he overslept.
Like many, Flesner was not sure what to do with his own grief.
He found it manifesting itself in anger. He recalled a similar anger
he felt years earlier, during a rough period of his life when several
members of his family died within a short period of time.
"In both cases, I was mad at death," Flesner said.
Creating peace
Flesner worked through his own grief by remembering what is truly
important, something he recommends for anyone dealing with similar
thoughts and feelings.
"I would encourage people to take an inventory of their relationships,
of their families and their friends," Flesner said. "Deal with those
relationships in a healthy, positive way. If there is tension, try
to remove it. You can never know when that is going to be important."
In the days and weeks after Sept. 11, many South Sound residents
were overwhelmed with the need to do something, to help out somehow,
despite being a continent away.
"We all saw those towers collapse 60, 70 times," Scheffer said.
"Really, it wasn't good for people. It was almost like experiencing
it anew each time."
Whatever the psychological effects of the physical distance, though,
it seemed to magnify South Sound residents' desire to make some
kind of gesture. People waited in line for hours, and within several
days after Sept. 11, the local Red Cross fielded about 1,500 phone
calls, mostly from people wanting to donate blood.
So far, Red Cross executive director Kay Walters said her chapter
has collected $303,000 from residents specifically for the victims
of the Sept. 11 attacks. That's well over half the organization's
entire yearly budget.
"The compassion of the people who have called me is unbelievable,"
Walters said. "I talked to people who felt so emotionally touched
by this event, they needed to give every dime they possibly could
to help. I've been left in tears on the phone several times."
The generosity has been so great, in fact, that it's raised concerns
at the Red Cross and other charities that the well-intended giving
has drained money for many other worthwhile causes right here at
home.
For many, though, giving money or time is the way they will seek
closure from an event that so far has defied it.
For others, that same need is being met by flying the flag, or
raising concerns and organizing protests against the U.S. military's
efforts to stamp out terrorism and the governments that support
it.
Many simply have returned to their old routines, and pushed the
events of Sept. 11 to the background, though not out of sight.
"You know, with a flood, the waters recede," Walters said. "An
earthquake, the earth stops shaking. With this, there hasn't been
a sense that it has ended."
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